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Thursday, February 14, 2008

Finding the Other

“The thing that's between us is fascination, and the fascination resides in our being alike. Whether you're a man or a woman, the fascination resides in finding out that we're alike.”
--Marguerite Duras

I posted this clip a long time ago, but in a different context. To me, this scene captures the essence of many things that make life wonderful: mystery, tenderness, searching, a unique moment in time.

I was thinking, it being Valentine's Day and all, about how it is engrained in us to search for that one person we hope/think/want to complete us. (Is it genetic? sociological?) Some of us may have given up on the idea; some of us are still hopeful; some of us already have what we need.

I'm coming around to the idea that perhaps instead of having just one soulmate, one perfect counterpoint, that maybe our lives should be full of all different kinds of mates. They may be our connection to something infinite for just a moment, but the more we allow and embrace these people and these moments, the richer our lives become.

Here's to love and to mates, where ever we may find them.


Octavine Illustration February 13, 2008 at 11:04 PM  

you have a most lovely blog and a gorgeous aesthetic.

studio wellspring February 14, 2008 at 12:27 PM  

marvelous ~ a needed that reminder to honor the mystery & adore the process. great loves to you babe!

tangobaby February 14, 2008 at 1:46 PM  

Dear Octavine,

Thank you again for the compliment. I just added your blog to my list to remind me to keep up with your lovely work. You are a very talented artist.

tangobaby February 14, 2008 at 1:47 PM  

Dear Ms. Wellspring,

You said it even more perfectly than I could. Adore the process! Yes, that's what I meant.

xoxo to you.

NYC Tango Pilgrim February 14, 2008 at 2:56 PM  

"...the more we allow and embrace these people and these moments, the richer our lives become."

Well said TB. My life has become richer since I took up tango. And I've discovered lately that I might not ever settle for one.

tangobaby February 14, 2008 at 3:55 PM  

I agree with you entirely, TP. And my hope now is that I can take those feelings that I have with tango and bring them into the rest of my life.

24tango February 15, 2008 at 10:57 AM  

"the fascination resides in finding out that we're like.”

....and that has been the intention, to join the dots, and eventually to find the ultimate picture by drawing the lines that make the connections.

From my school days I remember the following with much affection: The infinity is at the point where two parallel lines will meet :) so perhaps we are not that far from it at any one time.

I love the sound tracks on that and wish our DJs realise how more often we wish to hear them on our dance floors.