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Thursday, February 28, 2008

What Does Love Mean?

This question was posed to a group of children ages 4 to 8. Here's what the kids had to say:

"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love." Rebecca, age 8

"When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth." Billy, age 4

"Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other." Karl, age 5

"Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs." Chrissy, age 6

"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired." Terri, age 4

"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.'" Danny, age 7

"Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss." Emily, age 8

"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen." Bobby, age 7

"If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate." Nikka, age 6

"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday." Noelle, age 7

"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well." Tommy, age 6

"During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore." Cindy, age 8

"My mommy loves me more than anybody You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night." Clare, age 6

"Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken." Elaine, age 5

"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford." Chris, age 7

"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day." Mary Ann, age 4
"I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones." Lauren, age 4

"When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you." Karen, age 7

"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross." Mark, age 6

"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget." Jessica, age 8
Okay, people, play nice today. And if you live in San Francisco, the sun is shining! Go outside!
Thanks to my baby sister for sending me these quotes this morning. She was my first love and still is.


Elizabeth February 28, 2008 at 10:57 AM  

"..when your eyelashes go up and down and stars come out of your." I think that is you Tangobaby! Your eyelashes do that! In your picture on the blog! And in real life.
I love this post, and I am going to print it out and out it up in my kitchen.

tangobaby February 28, 2008 at 11:08 AM  

Oh, Elizabeth! You have made my day.

Next time I see you, I will help you put stars on your eyelashes and then we will be Eyelash Sisters.


studio wellspring February 28, 2008 at 12:23 PM  

these quotes are so wonderful. i think my sister was my first love too! i remember feeling so important about looking after her, holdin gher hand, and making sure she knew certain important things. but i also remember being jealous of how much more attention she got than i did simply because she was younger. ah, the fickle heart of a 3 year old.

Anonymous February 28, 2008 at 1:23 PM  

"Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other."

Don't we call that Tango?

Debbi February 28, 2008 at 1:33 PM  

These are fantastic! "Out of the mouths of babes....."
Really and truly, some of these made me laugh out loud, and I needed that today!

tangobaby February 28, 2008 at 3:21 PM  

Hi Ms. Wellspring,

It's the best thing, to have a baby sister. I remember asking for mine and I always thought she was the cutest person in the world, even when I was five. I still do.

Your sister is very lucky to have you as her big sister.

Ms. Johanna!

I thought the exact same thing. Isn't that funny?

Hi Debbi,

I'm glad these made you smile. I hope your day is getting better.

RealityPivots February 28, 2008 at 6:48 PM  

totally, totally, great.

koolricky February 29, 2008 at 4:42 AM  

Children know it all. It's when you start learning that you start forgetting the real meaning of things and you have to read these things to get reminded about it...

tangobaby February 29, 2008 at 9:18 AM  

Dear RealityPivots and Koolricky,

I'm glad you liked these quotes. In our complicated world, how refreshing to read something that is said so simply rings so true.

Alan February 29, 2008 at 10:27 AM  

Thank you Tangobaby. I laughed. I cried. I held my mother's hand. Maybe this afternoon I'll be able to read them to her.

Maryam in Marrakesh February 29, 2008 at 11:15 AM  

So very darling. Children are so perceptive, aren't they? I couldn't have defined it better.

tangobaby February 29, 2008 at 11:19 AM  

Dear Alan,

My thoughts are with you and your mother. A kiss for both of you. I hope you can read these to her and make her smile.

Hello Maryam,

I send you virtual breakfasts and in an instant, here you are. Sometimes the internets are magical...little gossamer hellos spun across the world.